Summary of two articles form Exploratory Blog

In the article titled “Should Adopted Children be Allowed to Seek Their Biological Parents”, the author argues why biological family contact is beneficial. The author starts off by explaining how having contact with the biological parents can help the child better understand why they were put up for adoption, and create a sense of closure. It is often easier for an adopted child to accept the situation they are in when they understand the reasons for their adoption, and why it benefits them. In the article, the author also argues that the biological parents can play a key role when it comes to raising the child. The author gives the example that the biological parents may have been financially unstable at the time of adoption, but they may have great parenting skills that are crucial to the child’s development. Just because they put their child up for adoption doesn’t necessarily mean they are bad parents, sometimes certain circumstances decide what it best for a child. If they are capable of parenting, then there is no reason why they shouldn’t be able to be a part of their child’s life, and in most cases, the child will benefit from their wisdom.

In the article “Adoption: When Problems Occur with Birthparents” , the author outlines the potential problems that may arise after contacting and meeting the biological family. The first thing that the author suggests is “No matter how well you get along with the birthparents before the adoption, it's a good idea to put your expectations and plans in writing” (“Adoption: When Problems Occur with Birthparents”). The author suggests this because it creates a guideline for parents so that they know where their boundaries are, and they have a clear understanding of their responsibility in the child’s life. One of things that is described in the article is that when birthparents are introduced into the family, they can either be needy and demanding of the adoptive parents, or they can pull away and lose contact with their child. Both of these things can cause tension. If the biological parents are demanding of the adoptive parents, they may violate their rights, and invade the privacy of the child and their adoptive parents. This can cause conflict and in the long run, ruining the relationship. However, if the biological parents pull away from the child, this can leave both families feeling like they did something wrong, and make ruin the communication line between families. The author of this article describes the reasons why some biological parents lose contact with their child. Loss of communication is often due to the fact that the biological parents are trying to get on with their lives, or they are simply too sad or angry at themselves since they had to put their child up for adoption. It is a common problem that arises in many adoptions. The article also explains that over time, life moves on for both families, and things change in the family dynamic, making it hard to keep in touch, and this often causes tension and problems for both parties.